The best conversations happen like this:
Friend 1 : Would everything and everyone stop being a pain in the ass so I can stop freaking out?!
Friend 2 : Hey! Want me to get drunk on my lunch hour or eat a whole wheel of cheese...?
Friend 1 : I'm sorry? What?
Friend 2 : I was trying to be funny and cheer you up...
Friend 1 : Oh! [laughs.] Well then, please by all means get drunk on your lunch hour or eat a whole wheel of cheese. But can you swing by and pick me up first so we can do it together?* [laughs, then falls into silence again.] I'm sorry, I'm just upset about everything going on.
Friend 2 : I know. I'm here for you. What's up?
Friend 1 : Well, you know, between all the different people in my life who are in trouble and sick and hurting, plus the fact that I'm flat broke most of the time, I feel like I'm constantly fighting to keep my head above water. One minute I feel fine, the next, I feel like crying in a corner.
Friend 2 : Aww, my love! It's going to be okay. Deep breaths. And if you need to cry, do it. It helps sometimes. I love you and I know things will lighten up.
Friend 1 : Anyway, I know half this stuff is out of my control. I just hate that people don't make better decisions and that I am the one who worries about it. Thank you for being supportive. I love you.
Friend 2 : It's my pleasure, love.
Friend 1 : Thanks for cheering me up! Everything okay with you?
Friend 2 : Same old stuff, different day.
Friend 1 : True that. Well, you know I'm here whenever you're ready for a freak out session. Because, you know, sometimes that happens as we both know all too well...
Friend 2 : Heck yes we do. Lovelovelove!
And the really best part? Depending on the day, you may be either Friend 1 or Friend 2, but it's still the same conversation, the same amount of love. Thank you.
*Sidenote: I do not advocate drinking on the lunch hour.... or eating a whole wheel of cheese, for that matter. Just in case you were wondering.